“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.”
― Theodore Roosevelt
“If you own this story you get to write the ending.”
― Brené Brown
I am responsible for myself, my words, actions etc. whether I like it or not. What I do with my life and what I have done already is up to me.
You are totally responsible for your life. This is the foundational principle you must embrace if you plan for happiness and success in life and work.
For many people, everything is someone else’s fault. Every problem can be explained away with reasons why they can’t affect the situation or the outcome, especially at work.
This was me. Everybody else but me was the problem. I always had an excuse, a reason, a complaint about everything and I rarely or sometimes never accepted the blame or responsibility for anything that happened in my life.
I have discovered that we can’t grow this way. Because without taking responsibility, we’re all the more likely to look at our life as a failure because we allowed any passing wind to blow us around, all the while blaming the wind for how things turned out.
Taking responsibility simply means the realization that you are the creator of your life through your thoughts, your actions, inactions and your decisions.
Failing to take responsibility for our actions may work to our advantage on occasion or in the short term. For example, we might get away with keeping our mouth shut about something that we’ve done, or even blaming someone else for our misdeeds. We might not face consequences for our wrong actions…at the time.
However – make no mistake about this – eventually, this poor choice will definitely catch up with us and, it’ll typically cause more pain for us down the road than if we’d stepped up to the situation, took responsibility for it and honestly said, “We did it”.
“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”
Accept that what is done is done.
People make mistakes. Sometimes very serious ones. Most times mistakes are not always deliberate or personal. Sometimes people just don’t know what they are doing. If people hurt or abused you in the past, behaved badly towards you, it wasn’t necessary because they meant to be horrid, but because they were as naive, foolish, and as human as the rest of us.
They made mistakes in the way they raised you or ended a relationship or whatever, not because they wanted to, but because they didn’t know any better.
However, your response to whatever was done to you is totally your responsibility. Accept that the mistake was made. Let go of anger, resentment etc. Embrace the experience as character forming. And keep moving forward.
Accept yourself exactly the way you are –– the result of everything that has happened. We are all humans. This means that we are complex. We come fully loaded with desires, anguish, sins, pettiness, mistakes, ill temper, deviation, hesitation, repetition, and all the things that make us human. None of us can ever be perfect.
We can make improvements daily to build the kind of life we dream of. But whether we focus on our mistakes and humanness and use it as an excuse for being ineffective, unkind etc or not is completely our responsibility. Accept yourself. Stop picking faults with yourself, or giving yourself a hard time, stop beating yourself up over everything, stop pushing blames. Take responsibility for who you are and who you are becoming.
Make No Excuses Excuses for failure, excuses about your choices and decisions, excuses about everything or anything at all fuel dysfunctional thinking and consequently undesirable actions and behaviors. Making excuses instead of taking 100% responsibility for your actions, your thoughts, and your goals are the hallmark of people who fail to succeed both in their professional lives and personal lives.
Part of the power of taking responsibility for your actions is that you silence the negative, critical, unhelpful voice in your head. When you spend your thinking time on success and goal accomplishment, instead of on making excuses, you free up the emotional space formerly inhabited by negativity.
Stop the Blame Game… If the blame track or the excuse track plays repeatedly in your mind, you are shifting responsibility for your decisions and life to others. We can’t keep pushing blames. Blaming others for everything good or bad that has happened. Life happens. Really terrible things do happen, people get hurt, abused, disappointed, defrauded, etc. But we still have the power over how we respond to those circumstances. How we respond to the things happening in and around us is entirely our responsibility and choice.
We are responsible for the outcome of our lives. No one else. So,
Live every day as if what you do matters – because it does. Every choice you make; every action you take – matters. Your choices matter to you and create the life you live.
Every action you take affects your life, family, and organizational progress in one way or in another. You always make a difference. Let that difference move the world forward. You matter. And, your thoughts matter, too.
Take Responsibility for your life…